Often young girls ask questions about when it is worth starting a sexual life and how to behave with a young man. The body of a woman is not arranged like the body of a man, and their perception of intimate relationships is also different.

To begin sexual life not difficult, sometimes girls just make mistakes, and then regret that they wasted minutes of their lives on a person who did not live up to expectations. In fact, there is no universal answer, it is important to simply understand your feelings and learn to control yourself.

Some of the fair sex fully surrender to feelings, forgetting about the consequences. When does a part cost and how to avoid mistakes? You will learn about this in this article.

Puberty doesn't mean it's time

Some representatives the fair sex They think that you can have sex after puberty, but this is not entirely true. The female body takes a long time to form, and puberty is a sign that a fetus can form in a woman's body. But if a girl does not plan to give birth to a baby at such an early age, then the cycles are a natural process, and not a sign of readiness for sex.

The girl must develop breast, expand the pelvis and strengthen the immune system, so having a baby at such a young age can be dangerous. If your cycle has normalized, this does not mean that the body is completely ready for sex, because it is important to fully form.

It is important to remember about psychological maturity

If a talk about how soberly a girl can evaluate her actions at the age of 12-14, it is worth noting that this is almost impossible. Only by the age of 18, the fair sex is clearly aware of their actions and can be held responsible for the decisions made. In addition, at this age, the body is sufficiently formed, so even an unplanned pregnancy will not harm either the mother or the baby.

AT 14 years you can feel an incredible emotional outburst and enter into an intimate life with a guy, and then realize that it was only sexual desire. Not every girl can admit to herself that the impulses of the body and the awareness of actions are sometimes completely different concepts that do not overlap with each other. If you feel sexual desire, you should first think carefully, and then take certain actions. Not every teenager knows how to analyze and show objectivity, so psychologists do not recommend having intimate relationships if you are under 18 years old.

Basically the majority parents take care of their children and want to delay the moment of entering into intimacy in order to prevent mistakes. But often young girls are faced with misunderstanding and aggression, trying to convey the idea that they are ready to get close to their beloved guy. Of course, it’s worth asking your mom for advice, but only if you are sure that she will give you an adequate answer.

Try to approach this issue. from afar For mom to show her attitude to intimacy at such an early age, tell about your girlfriends and see how she reacts. In any case, parents will help with advice and share their experience so that you do not make mistakes. Parents can also give money for contraceptives, because not all teenagers can afford it, and then they face various troubles.

You must be prepared for the first sex

it necessary to make sexual intercourse as safe as possible. First study the anatomy of the male and female body, try to get information from others. It is also important to take care of a quality contraceptive method that is right for you, so it is additionally worth visiting a gynecologist.

Today doctors give good advice and can help in matters of sexual life. Make sure there are no surprises. You must understand what is happening in the process and how to avoid trouble. If you know a lot about human anatomy before your first sex, then there is a high probability that everything will go well. Read literature, sign up with a psychologist and a gynecologist in order to just talk.

Listen to your body, but also listen to your mind

many girls It is quite difficult to cope with your emotions, because with the onset of puberty, an incredible sexual desire also arises. I want to experience a lot of new things and become an adult. But in fact, it is quite realistic to treat partners selectively and prevent trouble, if you think about the possible consequences.

Try first of all get through the first time when you are in a state of acute love, because thinking in this case is very difficult. When you understand exactly that you like this person even with his shortcomings, you can think about sex. Think about the consequences of promiscuity, because moments of pleasure can turn into an unplanned pregnancy or a serious illness.

And if the guy you love insists on sex?

It often happens that young girl's partner insists on having sex even if she doesn't want to. This is where a rather difficult situation turns out, because many teenagers are afraid of losing a loved one, and perceive sex as their duty. If you started a relationship with a young man, and he began to insist on sex, then you should think about how serious his intentions are.

Do not be afraid that your guy he will leave you, because if he does this, then he did not have any love towards you, he just wanted to satisfy his sexual desires. An attentive and loving guy can always understand and wait, so just learn to respect yourself, only then will you be respected. There are a huge number of cases when, in adolescence, guys persuade a girl to have sex, and then they leave her.

We decided to check if the girl would be able to buy herself normal clothes in the men's department of GUM. The choice, you know, is small, but we still managed to find good things.

Natasha Kostsova, designer

Girl parameters: p ost - 174 cm, chest - 88 cm, waist - 73 cm, hips - 97 cm.

I often wear men's clothes - shirts, bikers, jackets, jeans - because they suit me better. In general, I really like sports things, I look ridiculous in too feminine, I feel uncomfortable. Sometimes I take the guy's things, but mostly I purposefully go to the men's department. I also have dresses in my wardrobe.

- Why do you like to wear men's clothes?

There is nothing superfluous in it, it is comfortable, and in most cases there are cool prints and cool models. For example, in women's sweatshirts, I have never seen a solid large hood - it is always made as if for beauty, as an accessory, and not for a real purpose.

“What are you looking for here, girls?” - asks the expected question of the female consultant when she sees that we are rummaging through men's jackets and discussing which one would suit the heroine. We got a little tense, because we got used to the fact that if we make material in a state store, then all its employees pile on us, send us to the director and, in general, “we had to send a request by fax in three weeks.”

This time we were very lucky: we explained to the consultant why we came, she quickly showed us all the clothes in small sizes, and even connected her colleagues - everyone agreed, were happy to help us and even allocated two fitting booths to store things there. Marvelous.

PANTS, SHIRT, HAT - 172 RUB

So, we started with this bow. We found a cool hat, but it had a strange black ribbon on it, which it would be better to rip off. There were no more white dress shirts that we would have liked - only this one with red thread.

Pants - 58 rubles, shirt - 65 rubles, hat - 48 rubles.

Some manufacturers make women's and men's pants very similar. Nuances, of course, will be, but at first glance you can not distinguish. Our 42nd size is two sizes smaller than the men's 42nd, that is, these trousers will be the 46th women's. And if, for example, the manufacturer made a small size, then the male S will be the same as the female. I mean, you can find clothes exactly the right size, and in general no one will say that they are men's. But still broad things, as if you borrowed them from your boyfriend, they look more spectacular and cooler.

JEANS, SHIRT, SWEATER - 192 RUB

“Can you tell by these jeans that they are men’s?” - our heroine is surprised. Unfortunately, we could not find any more cool non-giant shirts. Even in the section for teenage boys there was nothing suitable. But this perfect gray-beige sweater was in a small size - and, if anything, there were only two of them left.

Natasha is sure that it is easier for some girls to deal with men's clothing - there is no ambiguity, she is conservative, practical and most often simple. Especially now in the mass market there are many unisex options.

Jeans - 70 rubles, shirt - 43 rubles, sweater - 77 rubles.

By the way, if you are just starting to experiment with menswear, you can pay attention to how popular girls wear it, for example, British model and TV presenter Alexa Chung.

PANTS, SWEATER, JACKET - 269 RUBLES

Sweaters turned out to be the most expensive - this is because they are made of wool, Natasha explains. - But in general, in GUM you can get dressed on a budget and with high quality. Corduroy trousers, for example, are just right for our seasonal weather. The blue jacket was found at the very last moment - it was lost among the jackets.

Corduroy trousers - 70 rubles, a sweater (it was still in green) - 130 rubles, a jacket - 70 rubles.

But still, men's things need to be chosen carefully: they can look very cumbersome, you should not “drown” in them. Therefore, sometimes a shirt or raincoat can be tied with a belt or worn unbuttoned with a small dress, skirt or shorts.

A photo: Citydog.by, Instagram.

In modern society, women have achieved considerable success in the struggle for gender equality. They mastered science, conquered technology and learned how to effectively manage thousands of teams. It is not surprising that today an increasing number of the fair sex is wondering how a girl can get into the army.

What are the reasons for popularizing such a desire?

Along with the growth of public consciousness, pushing a woman to do her duty to ensure the defense of the Motherland, there are a number of more "earthly" reasons. In conditions of economic instability, the military profession allows you to get:

• a permanent, well-paid job without delays in salary payments;
• own housing;
• free treatment;
• decent pension;
• various social benefits, for example, rest in a sanatorium or free travel.

As you can see, there are more than enough reasons for wanting to become a military man, and all of them are significant.

What are the ways to join the army?

Unlike Israel and North Korea, Russian girls are not subject to mandatory conscription for military service. Therefore, if there is a desire, the fair sex has two alternatives.

1. Enter the ensign school or a military school, including Nakhimov or Suvorov. In this case, after graduation, the girls are sent to the duty station in the prescribed manner, along with the men.
2. Conclude a fixed-term contract for military service. This will allow you to choose any type of troops if there are vacancies in them for women's positions. Please note that contract work imposes certain restrictions on the possibility of obtaining some titles and work in certain specialties.

As for the most common areas of application of female labor in the army, this includes the medical service, administrative and instructor work, office work, and communication. It is forbidden to attract girls for guard and garrison service, but there are no problems with combat duty.

But no one will forbid you not to limit yourself to standard specialties, but to enter, for example, the missile forces. Of course, subject to your mental and physical compliance.

Basic requirements for a candidate

Can absolutely any woman go to contract service? Unfortunately no. The legislation establishes a list of basic requirements and restrictions for possible applicants.

Girls aged 18-40 who have successfully passed:

• Comprehensive medical examination, recognizing them as fit for military duties.
• Professional psychological testing, during which the character, intellectual level, behavioral habits, psychological maturity, speed of thinking, poise and worldview of the candidate are determined. According to the results of the test, the candidate can be assigned to one of four categories of professional and psychological suitability. The first two categories are definitely suitable for contract service. A girl who has received the third category can be accepted for a certain position only if there are no other candidates.
• Physical standards for speed, endurance and strength, approved by the Ministry of Defense. In this case, it is necessary to successfully cope with all types of exercises. Failure in at least one standard will negate your dream of becoming a military man.

Also, a prerequisite is the presence of a minimum of secondary education, although many positions will require baggage in the form of higher or vocational education.

Many girls are interested in the question of whether marital status and the presence of children are a limiting factor for contract service. We hasten to reassure - no. If a woman is confident that she can effectively combine family life with work in the army, they cannot prevent her from doing so.

However, a contract with a candidate will not be concluded if:

• age beyond the specified limits;
• having a criminal record;
• issuance of a guilty verdict against her or the conduct of a criminal case;
• the fact of serving a sentence in a colony.

How to start the path to the contract army?

What does a girl need to get the desired contract? The first step is to visit the military registration and enlistment office at the place of residence or contact the military unit in which she wants to serve directly.

If there are vacancies for women's positions, you can start filling out an application, which must be accompanied by a certain package of documents. It is better to clarify their list directly at the place of application. As a rule, it will not be possible to do without:

• passports;
• photos in full face 3x4 and 9x12;
• copies of the birth certificate;
• handwritten autobiography;
• a questionnaire filled out on a special form;
• copies of documents confirming education;
• copies of the work book;
• copies of marriage and birth certificates of children (if any);
• characteristics from the place of study or work.

Remember that all hard copies must be properly certified.

After that, you should relax and wait for the decision of the draft board, which you will be informed within 10 to 30 calendar days. In case of a positive result, do not rush to immediately sign the proposed contract. Carefully read all of its points in order to avoid possible disappointments later.

A few words about service in various countries

Today, not only in Russia, but throughout the world, there is a steady increase in the number of women serving in the army. Therefore, as an option, you have the opportunity to obtain citizenship of another country. What awaits you in this case?

Girls in the democratic USA and Europe are on a contract service on a par with the male half. They are allowed to any type of troops, including the management of complex military equipment - ships and aircraft. Small benefits are made only in the standards of physical fitness.

In Israel, all girls between the ages of 18 and 24 are required to serve on a mandatory basis on an equal basis with men. The only difference is in the service life: not 36, but 21 months.

Military service in North Korea has become mandatory since last year. But there were always enough people who wanted to get into the army, because this saved many from a hungry life. Interestingly, among the parameters for the selection of applicants, external beauty was mandatory. By the way, this is the only army where women serve in heels.

In China, military service is also considered compulsory and prestigious, but is conducted on a competitive basis. Therefore, if you wish, you can fail the entrance competition, other candidates will only thank you.

As you can see, girls everywhere confidently win another right from men - the right to serve in the army. And once again in this field they prove their worth and competence, completely refuting the title of the “weaker” sex.

Girls in Russia are not subject to compulsory military conscription. Therefore, to the question of how a girl can get into the army, there is only one answer: voluntarily by concluding a contract for service. The Ministry of Defense has established a list of military positions for which female contractors can be accepted.

A woman between the ages of 18 and 40 who has an education of at least secondary education (a number of positions require vocational or higher education) can enter the contract service. In addition, she must pass a health screening, psychological testing and physical fitness standards.

A contract with a woman cannot be executed if:

• she is under 18 or over 40;
• a criminal case is pending or a conviction has already been passed against her;
• she has a criminal record;
• previously, the woman was serving a sentence in a colony (even if the conviction has already been extinguished).

But the presence of a husband and children is not an obstacle to serving. If a woman believes that joining the service will not negatively affect family relationships, she can join the army.

Don't know your rights?

Enrollment of a woman in the army of the Russian Federation. Where to begin

A girl who decides to go to serve under a contract must submit an application to the military registration and enlistment office at the place of residence or directly to the military unit. Along with the application, you will need to submit a certain package of documents:

Copies of documents must be properly certified.

Checking a woman's readiness for military service

After the application for contract service is accepted by the military registration and enlistment office for consideration, the girl is invited to undergo certain examinations and tests. Only with their successful passage, it can be accepted for service under the contract.

These checks include:

1. Medical examination. Based on its results, the degree of fitness for service in the armed forces is determined. A girl can be accepted for contract service if, according to the results of a medical examination, she is assigned category “A” (fit for service) or “B” (fit with minor restrictions).
2. Checking psychological qualities. During this test, such qualities and personality traits are checked as: intellectual level, speed of thinking, ability to communicate, psychological maturity, type of temperament, balance, etc. Based on the results of the survey, one of 4 categories of psychological fitness is assigned. The girls assigned to the first or second category are accepted for service under the contract. If there are no other candidates for a specific military position, then a citizen with a third category can also be accepted.
3. Determining the level of physical fitness. To check the physical readiness for military service, a woman is invited to pass 3 standards: for speed, strength and endurance. These standards are approved by the Ministry of Defense. If the girl failed to complete at least 1 of the 3 exercises, she is not accepted for contract service.